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If marriages are made in heaven, why is it that so many people are divorcing today?
question by-Sharon


Any thoughtful person today has to be concerned about the state of marriage in our country and in the Western world at large. Marriage seems to be on the rocks, and it’s not clear what the future holds.
 
                                  Divorce has become too easy to obtain,
 
                            and it’s having detrimental effects on our world.

With over 6 billion people in the world, we choose only one person in the world meant to be "My Husband / My Wife" !
Now, Does God has a hand in this love equation?

God’s intention for man and woman "from the beginning" (Matt. 19:8) was a lifelong union.

Shortly after God created humanity, he instituted marriage. This is evidenced in the second chapter of the Bible: "Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh" (Gen. 2:24).

“So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matt. 19:6).

Twin flames, twin souls and divine complements are metaphysical terms more reflective of the divine nature of the relationship. Of the three, divine complement better expresses the spiritual connection and complementary character of the relationship, two opposites who as a pair reflect a balanced union as "soulmate" .

The term "soulmate" by definition is someone to whom you have a natural and deep affinity, bonded in commonality and compatible in most ways.

Fact: One Person in the World
Your divine complement is your twin soul and twin flame whom since the beginning of creation has been linked to you through a mystery - a heart-spirit connection. He or she represents that one person to whom you are most connected soul-to-soul and spirit-to-spirit, and with whom you may have an opportunity to meet and bond with at the human dimension. Your divine complement holds inborn potentials that match and complement your own and carries the key to your spiritual evolution. They are your ultimate complementary match.

Fiction: Happily-Ever-After
The romantic notion that soul mates are guaranteed a life of romantic bliss with extraordinary heights of sexual and spiritual ecstasy, and have so much in common that they will never fight, is a myth sending many to search endlessly for the perfect person. In truth, the passion sparks don't necessarily fly in the beginning and the two are so opposite that getting along can be a challenge. Fate will present challenges that may be anything but happy experiences to test the commitment to love.

Fact: Destiny and Fate Design the Way
The majority of twin souls, divine complements, have a destiny to at least meet in this life and most are meant to build their relationship into a lasting commitment. Their union is spirit-driven. Divine complements come together by "divine design" and at the perfect time often through serendipity to begin their journey. A co-created design, a destiny plan, was set in motion just before the incarnation, spelling out what the couple promised to achieve. Just because the relationship is "meant-to-be", doesn't guarantee the relationship will work.

Fiction: Soulmates Think Alike and Like the Same Things
"True soulmates" are more likely to be opposites who complement each other nicely. Your twin possesses a unique intelligence with qualities that summon up your more hidden potentials, pointing you to a reflection of wholeness, the balance of masculine and feminine traits. These complementary qualities can also be blended together to form a balanced and successful partnership. It is often true that soulmates won't see eye to eye on everything, because they grew up with different sets of values. Valuing each other will prove more important than valuing and liking the same things.

Fact: Soulmates Share a Highly Developed Sixth Sense
It is often true that soulmates pick up on each other's psychic cues, finish each other's sentences and communicate telepathically. They are in sync a lot of the time. It is not uncommon for a soulmate to sense it when their soulmate is distressed, picking up on negative emotional currents even at a distance or to dream more detailed information about their emotional wellbeing. The spirit-driven synergy soulmates share creates a unified field of creativity producing signs and synchronicities that flood each other's consciousness. This is why there are usually magical and meaningful signs that authenticate the soulmate connection when soulmates meet.

Fiction: It will never be the same with someone else.
Less soulmates come together and commit to a long-term relationship. Therefore, there is every possibility that you can have a soulful and complementary relationship with someone else, fall in love, bond in friendship and be happy. In fact, you could be happier with someone else, a love-match who complements you in some of the same ways your soulmate does.

          One writer deeply interested in finding his soulmate, was Richard Bach, who immortalised his three-year hunt and subsequently married to actress Leslie Parrish. Aware that nothing happens by chance, he abandoned his illusions, sold his biplane, kept his life on hold, and went looking for the Perfect Woman, a full-time quest for his "dear unknown".

         There were doubts aplenty in Bach's mind: Is it a gamble? Is love a passport to disaster? Is it possible for soul mates to meet and then separate forever? Is the only true soul mate to be found in many different people? Am I making a huge investment of hope to one human being? Will I lose it all?

         In Parrish, he eventually realised, he had found the person he had never met but had been missing all his life. And Bach's views have not changed, for, almost a decade later, he writes: "My wife is a loving and beautiful woman, the soul mate found after I had given up searching."


Twenty years into her marriage, Bangalore-based Prema Seshadri, 44, has some clear views on the subject, though she confesses to having revised her opinion many times. Observes Seshadri: "The search for a soul mate is essentially a search for balance."

Seshadri began her research on soul mates when she found that things were not going well for her and her husband: "I had been married for 14 years when I started to question: Who is this man? Am I bonded to him? Why to him? And so on."

She details some other findings: "Soul mates form a process of completion—the yin and yang balance. We are all moving around in life doing several things required for living, but fundamentally we are in search for that balance. Then comes the concept of marriage.

Living and growing together, man and woman achieve balance within. The process is thus complete, both are one."

It is not so simple, with its 'finding unity and hence living happily ever after' kind of conclusion, admits Seshadri, who now considers anyone who helps you grow spiritually to be a different type of soul mate. "Actually a husband is a Real soul mate".


A soul mate could be a missing half of your soul. "A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are... Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life."
 


 


A Beautiful Life just doesn't happen.
It is Built Daily in Prayer, Humility, Sacrifice & Love.
May a Beautiful Life be yours Forever…


"We explore the stars and the depths of the sea but how much
do we know about ourselves and the reason for being here?"


I am absolutely convinced of this: your family will enjoy more closeness in your relationships, as well as experience more restoration from past hurts, when you prioritize conversing with God in prayer.

The Lord created you as a physical, mental and spiritual entity. When you pray regularly, you are stimulating the spiritual part of your being that all too often rests dormant...
unused...
ignored...
neglected.
 
Prayer helps make you - and your spouse, your children, and your relatives - whole and more complete in Him!
 
Don't overlook it in your home any longer! Here's a trio of ways you can empower your family by prioritizing prayer:
 
1.
Pray with each other as a family group - This builds the sense of spiritual community in your home, the realization you are one as a family and that you serve the same God. In a family, one should regularly get together to talk to God, usually around the dinner table or elsewhere. You will discovere that praying for each other as a family connects us. There's nothing more intimate than praying with a person that you love, and when you do that as a family, it's powerful.
 
2.
Pray for each other individually - In my personal life, I've noticed that when I'm praying for someone in my family, it's easier to love them. You'll become a little more patient with them, and will begin to see your family members in a positive, more healthy perspective. Another great benefit of conversing with God about your loved ones is that it forces you to find out exactly what's going on in their lives. When I pray for someone, I need to know her needs - emotionally, physically and spiritually - so I can speak to God about them.
 
3.
Couples praying together for their marriage - Talking with God together as husband and wife, perhaps more than anything else you can do as a couple, will help you keep the vows you made to each other on your wedding day. You are acknowledging to the Lord that He is in charge of your marriage, and that you are committed to staying together and making your marriage work, regardless of the challenges you may face.
 
Bible teacher once said, "The power of prayer can never be overestimated because of the omnipotent God who hears and answers." As prayer becomes a daily, vibrant facet of your family's existence, don't be surprised when the relationships in your home become happier and healthier.
 
Bring God alive in your family as never before. Make the power of prayer a reality for your loved ones today!

“But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”
– Matthew 6:6

 

Building and maintaining a strong and loving family in today's culture takes a determined will and a conscious and sustained effort on the part of every family member. With so many things competing for our time and attention it is easy to lose sight of the value and significance of the close, loving relationships our families can provide.

It's often been said that when a person comes to the end of their life they realize that the only things that really matter are the loving relationships that were established and cultivated throughout the years - especially those with family.

If you want to build a firm foundation of love and support for your family that will stand the test of time and weather the storms of difficult life circumstances, we encourage you to embrace these ten resolutions for building a strong family.


While trusting God for the love and strength we'll need,
our family resolves to...

I. LIVE OUR LIVES ACCORDING TO WHAT WE VALUE AND BELIEVE ...EVEN WHEN IT ISN'T POPULAR!

But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD. Joshua 24:15

II. RESPOND TO EACH OTHER WITH KIND WORDS AND ACTIONS ...EVEN WHEN WE HAVE BEEN HURT OR ARE ANGRY!

Be kind and compassionate to one another... Ephesians 4:32
A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. Proverbs 14:29

III. LOVE EACH FAMILY MEMBER FOR WHO GOD CREATED THEM TO BE ... EVEN WHEN WE DON'T UNDERSTAND OUR DIFFERENCES!

...love one another deeply, from the heart. 1 Peter 1:22

IV. UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER BEFORE TRYING TO BE UNDERSTOOD ...EVEN WHEN WE BELIEVE WE ARE RIGHT!

Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry... James 1:19

V. MAKE OUR HOME A PLACE WHERE EVERYONE WANTS TO BE ...EVEN WHEN WE KNOW IT STILL WON'T BE PERFECT!

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. 1 Peter 4:8-9

VI. SAY "I LOVE YOU" TO EACH OTHER EVERY DAY ...EVEN WHEN WE DON'T ALWAYS FEEL LIKE IT!

An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up. Proverbs 12:25
A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. Proverbs 25:11

VII. ADMIT WHEN WE ARE WRONG AND BE QUICK TO APOLOGIZE ...EVEN WHEN SAYING "I'M SORRY" IS DIFFICULT!

Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Matthew 5:23-24

VIII. SPEND TIME TOGETHER HAVING FUN ...EVEN WHEN THERE IS WORK TO BE DONE!

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Matthew 6:34

IX. NEVER GIVE UP ON EACH OTHER ...EVEN WHEN THE CIRCUMSTANCES APPEAR HOPELESS!

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. Galatians 6:9-10

X. FORGIVE EACH OTHER WHEN WE HAVE BEEN HURT OR OFFENDED ...EVEN WHEN IT IS NOT ASKED FOR!

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13


The Church clearly teaches
that divorce does not—indeed cannot—end sacramental marriage
.

"A ratified and consummated marriage
cannot be dissolved by any human power
or for any reason other than death"
(Code of Canon Law 1141).

 Only death dissolves a sacramental marriage.

“Power Of Love”
Lyrics:-
 
I’ll protect you from the hooded claw
Keep the vampires from your door
 
Feels like fire
I’m so in love with you
Dreams are like angels
They keep bad at bay-bad at bay
Love is the light
Scaring darkness away-yeah
 
I’m so in love with you
Purge the soul
Make love your goal
 
The power of love
A force from above
Cleaning my soul
Flame on burn desire
Love with tongues of fire
Purge the soul
Make love your goal
 
I’ll protect you from the hooded claw
Keep the vampires from your door
When the chips are down I’ll be around
With my undying, death-defying
Love for you
 
Envy will hurt itself
Let yourself be beautiful
Sparkling love, flowers
And pearls and pretty girls
Love is like an energy
Rushin’ rushin’ inside of me
 
The power of love
A force from above
Cleaning my soul
Flame on burn desire
Love with tongues of fire
Purge the soul
Make love your goal
 
This time we go sublime
Lovers entwine-divine divine
Love is danger, love is pleasure
Love is pure-the only treasure
 
I’m so in love with you
Purge the soul
Make love your goal
 
The power of love
A force from above
Cleaning my soul
The power of love
A force from above
A sky-scraping dove
 
Flame on burn desire
Love with tongues of fire
Purge the soul
Make love your goal
 
I’ll protect you from the hooded claw
Keep the vampires from your door.

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Lies Destroy Marriages
by Violet on 3rd Jul, 2008
Lies Destroy Marriages. Unfortunately, not all relationships are going well. Many couples today are struggling in their marriages or are on the brink of separation or divorce.
Several lies or misbeliefs that keep reappearing with couples. These lies have been around for a long time. These are not new lies. They are the same old ones that people have used for many many years. I realize it seems pretty bold to use the word “lies” but that’s what they are. Lies that we are buying into everyday as we allow our minds to deceive us into what we think will make us truly happy.
Truth keeps the marriage alive forever!
 
There are no perfect husbands or wives.
by Fr. Jason on 3rd Jul, 2008
“I tell you, a marriage may be made in heaven, but maintenance is needed on this earth.”
Good marriages have problems too. Good marriages take time and effort to develop and cultivate. And you will never find a perfect marriage on this earth. You know why? Because there is not a perfect man or woman alive. There are no perfect husbands or wives.
 
Thanks for answering my question
by Sharon on 3rd Jul, 2008
Thank-you very much for answering my question. I don't know what to do to make things right in my life. Today, i feel my marriage is based on lies. My husband who was my love at one point of time told me he could never hurt anyone, and before doing so he would end up being hurt. That was one of the reason why i gave my heart so easily to him for i believed even if we had problems in life, we would sort it out as both of us are sensitive people and cannot hurt another.

Today, after two years of my married life am beginning to wonder as this very man has hurt me so much. There is no love in his heart for me, he prefers being away from me. Its two months now and there is not a word exchanged. Its like he is comfortable living his life the way it is with his parents, his friends and colleagues.

Before he came into my life, i was a happy and jovial person. Today, i am shattered as i've given up everything for him and yet he does not acknowledge my love for him.

How much more can a person take in this short span. Why are men so insensitive to woman's feelings? I don't know what God has in store for me but i do pray every day and night for guidance and I hope God shows me his way soon.

Continue to keep me in prayers.
 
Don’t give up on marriages.
by Thereza Joseph on 3rd Jul, 2008
Don’t give up on your marriages. Hope is not gone. With God all things are possible. It is not impossible for you to have the marriage that God wants you to have. Put God first and you will see that you will have a blessed and beautiful marriage as He planned for you to have.
 
Praise God!
by Lucy Noronha on 3rd Jul, 2008
Hi Sharon,

Praise God! How u doing? As i have already mentioned in my previous comment that marriage itself is so difficult. But all married couples do have God's grace & his grace is sufficient. Jesus should be the center of every marriage infact not only in marriage but also in between all relationships. God never invented Divorce. I tell u one thing it is very very difficult to love any one continously. Hence we need Jesus. So many people are divorcing today coz they don't approched Jesus THE HEALER FOR HELP, but they approch the whole world.We need to pray for them. Tk care. I m praying for you & pls do pray for me.

Love Lucy.
 
For Lucy
by Sharon on 3rd Jul, 2008
Hello Lucy, Am doing alrite though very sad and lonely as things are the same for me on my personal front. I keep reading your text to me whereby you mentioned that God knew my husband nature and hence chose me to be his wife.

Well whatever be the reason, i ask Jesus to help me to make things right in my life once again as this pain is indeed killing me every moment of my life.

Imagine going home to a family that does not even care for you. Its like am a furniture to them. Am least concerned on my in-laws behaviour but yes my husband not talking to me is very disturbing.

The other nite, he gave me a missed call on my cell phone (2:15 am) where i did not hear the phone ring and then once again he called at 2:28 am. I waited to see if he is coming into the room to talk but he chose not to, seriously i don't know what is playing in his mind and what he wants.

All I know is that he has a big ego and pride and won't bend even if he is at fault. Only Jesus can work things thru in my life and that is why I keep praying and asking Jesus to intervene and work things thru for us after all he has joined us together at the alter to be one with him.

Continue to pray for me and I for you.
 
For Thereza
by Sharon on 3rd Jul, 2008
Thanks for your text. I've not given up on my marriage yet but every moment like this is indeed killing me dearly.

Yes I live in hope and pray every day that Jesus will interceed and make things right in our lives once again.

Please pray for us and that God will give me the grace to stay patient while he works his wonders in my life and our lives together as a couple.
 
Miracles do happen
by Anna Falcao on 3rd Jul, 2008
He is so used to be indifferent to you. then just as an experiment, give him an i love you forever card. Don't forget to pray that he is touched by it. Miracles do happen.
i'm praying for you.
 
Marriages
by Luiza Dsouza on 3rd Jul, 2008
God proposes but man disposes
 
Marriage is like Horse and Carriage
by Ashok Lobo on 3rd Jul, 2008
Marriage is like Horse and Carriage and in the scenario it not who's pulling or who's carrying its the sancticity of understanding that unless there is a union between the two it just wont happen...now there are times that the horse will pull but the carriage is empty...like a home devoid of ideas or a un willing horse to a laden carriage a home full of opportunities may be problems....there should be just the two trying to draw a line of success...any 3rd party would only be opportunist in enjoying the rift.
 
An idea why marriage resulting to divorce
by PACITA J. PREGLO on 4th Jul, 2008
Yeah it's right. Lets say the Lord prepared your soul mate or your destiny and happened sacredly bind together into one but as a human being temptation is just within you. Sometimes you cannot escape especially when you can find someone more loving, caring so sweet and romantic that everyone needs in our life thus that ways are always neglected for couples, forgetting how precious " LOVE" is. That's why " LOVE" then become meaningless and worthless. The value of marriage maybe a mess to each and everyone and thereby resulting to divorce. This is just my opinion.
 
For Ashok
by Sharon on 4th Jul, 2008
Thanks Ashok for your response to my question. I fully agree with you. Today, b'cuz of interference from my in-laws and other sources my husband and self are separated from each other. V may be living in the same home but total strangers to each other as he chose to live life this way.

I've surrendered to the Lord and i believe that whatever happens, it will only be for my good as our heavenly father is a god of love, peace and compassion and whoever turns to him, he is there waiting with open arms to welcome and hence will never forsake us.

Continue to keep me in your prayers.
 
Faith counts.
by Sebastian D'Souza on 5th Jul, 2008
Dear Sharon, I have gone through your letters. Don't give up.Keep it up. Jesus will definately reward you for your faith. Jesus ke gharme der hai, and her nahee. So keep on praying to Jesus. I am praying for your marriage everyday. Fix your eyes only on Jesus.
 
Sharon
by Mrs Lourdes D'Costa on 5th Jul, 2008
Just thought I could transmit this miraculous rosary to you. Make it part of your daily prayers. A very Powerful rosary.

The Miraculous Rosary

I believe…………………………..

If Jesus frees me, I shall really be freed (to be said once)

The first Decade – (10 beads)
Jesus, have mercy on me, }
Jesus heal me, Jesus save me,} on each bead
Jesus free me }

If Jesus frees me, I shall really be freed (to be said once)

Second Decade(10 beads)
Jesus, have mercy on me, }
Jesus heal me, Jesus save me, } on each bead
Jesus free me }

If Jesus frees me, I shall really be freed ( to be said once)

Third Decade(10 beads)
Jesus have mercy on me, }
Jesus heal me, Jesus save me, } on each bead
Jesus free me }

If Jesus frees me, I shall really be freed ( to be said once)

Fourth Decade(10 beads)
Jesus have mercy on me, }
Jesus heal me, Jesus save me, } on each bead
Jesus free me }

If Jesus frees me, I shall really be freed (to be said once)

Fifth Decade(10 beads)
Jesus have mercy on me, }
Jesus heal me, Jesus save me, } on each bead
Jesus free me }

If Jesus frees me, I shall really be freed (to be said once)

Hail Holy Queen…………………

I am keeping you in my daily prayers.
 
For Lourdes
by Sharon on 7th Jul, 2008
Thanks for your text and informing me on the Liberation Rosary, i say it every day not only for myself, but us as a couple and also for my husband as an individual.

It means a lot to me to know that each of you are praying for me and am certain that Jesus will hear our prayers and bring my husband back to me after all it was he who joined us at the alter to profess our love to one another
 
For Sebastian
by Sharon on 7th Jul, 2008
Thanks for your message and assurance of prayers for me and my husband. I believe in Jesus and I know that he will take care of me, whatever the situation may be.

Yesterday in the gospel reading it was said "Come to me all who are burdened and I will give you rest", i've entrusted my life in God's hands and I feel safe and secure today.

Whatever happens, it will only be for my good as Jesus knows what's best for me.

I continue to pray and ask God for guidance to deal with this situation.
 
The Mystery of Marriage
by Paulina from Switzerland on 7th Jul, 2008
The Mystery of Marriage is something all married people are called by God to experience and explore. And He provided in the Catholic Church all the many graces and helps that flow from the sacrament of Holy Matrimony as a means of assisting husbands and wives to love each other with a deep and holy love. As married people everywhere know, this calling is often not easy to pursue and, at times, it can be very difficult. But take heart. Even if your personal marital situation is difficult, even if you have experienced the pain — no matter the problems — the Church and Prayers are the helpful resources that will enable you to fix problems in your marriage and find true peace and happiness that comes from the ability to forgive past hurts.
 
Believe in God
by Emelia Barreto on 8th Jul, 2008
It looks like most of the people getting married do not believe in God no more and just want to marry for the lust of it, People are more confident of themselves and do not consider the fact that everything that happens to themselves is because of the blessings of the higher power. and there is no consideration for one another any more. Everybody today is for himself, and no consideration for each other. Money is the most important thing in man's life today. Although it is important, also the sense of hope is very important and the fact that we should believe.
 
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