It isn't necessarily correct to imply that every marriage is a God sanctioned sacrament. No marriage has any concrete evidence that God has certainly authorised it or graced it. Conversely, we cannot say that God has disproved of any marriage.

But a marriage is a an individual commitment to sustain a contract. That commitment should be mutual. If this mutualness cannot be maintained for any reason it is hypocritical to continue in a marriage. A hypocritical kind of love is no love at all. And if divorce helps anyone, faking it, get rid of hypocritical love then surely God would approve of it. For God's love is unconditional.

There is nothing justifiably convincing in the perception that God disproves of people who have divorced for plausible reasons. I think God would be more comfortable with people who are honest with each other than with people who are living a superficial lie going by the tag of marriage. God is not only bothered about the vows you exchange in public but about how true you can be to your partner even in your own heart. It means do not cheat on someone even if you think God isn't looking.

Most people think that problems can be solved by faith alone. But God also gave us reason as a gift. James, not only have you considered being unfaithful to your wife but if you abandon her you will also be unreasonable. Question yourself and ask is this right thing to do? Would I like it if my wife followed the same path I am treading on now?

Question everything, even long held religious beliefs and when you have come to a decision that is equitable stick to it. I have included religious beliefs only to emphasise a point here. That most Catholics follow doctrines blindly without pondering over them assuming that what has been told to them has been inspired by God. They are unwilling to critically examine those doctrines even if they are totally opposed to agreeable concepts of God.

A good many Catholics, especially in Goa, have not really read the Bible in toto and would blindly believe the priest if he told them the Bible said two and two makes six.

God does not burn you in hell for challenging a church doctrine which is unreasonable for that would make God's love conditional. This does not mean that every church doctrine should be criticised. But we should abandon any religious doctrine that seems foolish and follow those which promote the moral good and virtues of the greatest number, even if they are not Catholic.

Remember, helping hands are always better than lips that merely pray. Being Catholic or Christian by birth does not give any one superiority before God nor does being non-Christian make you inferior. For God answers the needs of all without distinctions.