GuardianAngel encourages individuals, churches and groups to adopt this declaration so that others will know where they stand.
God, and not man, is the creator of human life. Therefore, from conception to natural death we will protect and respect the sanctity of every human life. Furthermore, we recognize that the unjustified taking of life is sinful, but God gives absolution to those who ask for His forgiveness.
Peace for the
heart, mind, soul and spirit!
Abortion, without a doubt, can be one of the most traumatic experiences in a person's life. The loss of pregnancy through abortion may be far in your past, but the memories remain. You, the father, or other family members may feel like emotions are crashing down on you. You may feel as if your head is stuck in the sand. Please know that you are NOT an island, and are NOT alone! In many cases, the pain of loss may initially be buried, and may surface in relationship difficulties, depression or physical, psychological or spiritual problems.
This personal post-abortive journey starts with YOU! Remember that whatever is UNconfessed is beyond the reach of healing!
Guardian Angel will help you find peace for your heart, mind, soul and spirit following the loss of a pregnancy by choice. This personal type of peace we know first hand can heal our internal brokenness, repair relationships and bring us into intimate friendships. It give us a new beginning in life following an abortion. It changes the tides of our lives! This is the peace we all hunger for in the deepest part of our hearts.
Are you from "Those People"
Just WHO are those people?
Those people are the women, men, siblings, grandparents, and extended family who have chosen an abortion in the past, or been associated with someone who has. Those people are your neighbors down the street, your pastor or his wife, your nephew's teacher, or your son's coach. Those people are your daughter's best friend, your work-out buddy at the gym, your grandmother or friend from school. You're eating lunch with those people at work, studying the Bible with them at church, watching them on TV, listening to them on a CD, or seeing them run for public office.
Those people are individuals who chose abortion when it was legal, or when it was illegal. Either way, those people were deceived into thinking it was the ONLY way out of an unplanned or medically challenged pregnancy. And then realizing, that it was too late! Those people ARE EVERYWHERE! And they are suffering in silence around the world! WHY? Because they are too ashamed and too frightened that they will be classified as "those people" when they ask or search for help.
When those people have emotional, physical or spiritual complication we usually don't know how to reach out to them as a society, church or even as a family. After all, it was their choice, right? Legal abortion is safe and supposedly a simple solution. Unfortunately, those people, who made that "poor choice," don't often know what to do themselves when their world seems to be crashing down around them. And their ONE abortion, through a rippling effect, touches 20, 30 or even 40 people throughout their lifetime. Some of those effected may choose to do nothing, stuck in denial for years! Others may take a courageous step and seek outside help! If more counselors and therapists would acknowledge a past abortion, the “real root” of those peoples’ anger, depression, addiction or eating disorder might be addressed empathetically!
So, how and what do we do with those people? How do we treat them? Do we grant them compassion or scold them with contempt? So we lash out in anger? Or reach out in love? Do we grieve with them differently than a family who mourns a child lost to miscarriage or stillbirth? Hummmm, something we should think about....
When those people are finally released from shame, guilt and grief ... lives and souls change! Physical, emotional and spiritual complications are often resolved. When those people can stand up and be “silent no more” about the ramifications of their choice ... other children are saved and families and marriages are healed. All it takes is one willing heart to make it OK for one of those people to share their story. All it takes is for one of those people to be accepted, unconditionally and without judgment.
Let's make it easier and more acceptable for those people to get the healing they need. Let's make it safe to talk with them at school, at church, at work, at home and even within our families. Let’s add "pregnancy termination" to our counseling, life coach or church intake forms. After all, if generations can share the truth, then maybe, just maybe, the cycle of abortion will cease. Open up your arms to accepting those people who just might need that one willing heart.
If you are one of “those people”, or know someone who is, This article can help them! We appreciate prayers. Our goal is for those people to find personal peace for their heart, mind, soul and spirit.
People who choose abortion are taking the easy way out.
The truth is that there are many possible side effects that follow abortion. Some of the possibilities include:
- Physical Consequences:
- Miscarriage in subsequent pregnancies
- Breast cancer
- Emotional Consequences
Post Abortion Syndrome: Post-Abortion Syndrome (PAS) is a form of Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD). PTSD is the result of having suffered an event so stressful and so traumatic that the person is taken beyond his/her ability to cope in a normal manner. Victims of PTSD are unable to simply resume their lives where they left off before the traumatic event. Instead they experience a variety of reactions that do not go away merely with the passage of time. Although the symptoms of PTSD (and PAS) are varied, and although they may not surface for years after the trauma, they are nonetheless real and should be dealt with.
The events leading up to and including the abortion itself are often of such a traumatic nature that PTSD is often the result. Few if any of those who choose abortion are prepared for its devastating effects.
For most couples, an abortion causes unforeseen problems in their relationship. Post-abortion couples are more likely to divorce or separate. Many post-abortion women develop a greater difficulty forming lasting bonds with a male partner. This may be due to abortion related reactions such as lowered self-esteem, greater distrust of males, sexual dysfunction, substance abuse, and increased levels of depression, anxiety, and volatile anger.
- Possible Symptoms of Post-Abortion Syndrome in Women:
- Sad Mood
- Sudden and Uncontrollable Crying
- Deterioration of Self-Esteem
- Disruption in Interpersonal Relationships
- Sleep, Appetite, and Sexual Disturbances
- Reduced Motivation
- Thoughts of Suicide
- "Anniversary Syndrome" (An increase of symptoms around the time of the anniversary of the abortion and/or the due date of the aborted child.)
- Re-experiencing the Abortion
- Preoccupation with Becoming Pregnant Again
- Anxiety over Fertility and Childbearing Issues
- Disruption of the Bonding Process with Present or Future Children
- Survival Guilt: ...the decision boiled down to a sorrowful conclusion: "It's me or you, and I choose me"
- Development of Eating Disorders
- Alcohol and Drug Abuse
- Inability to accept or offer forgiveness pertaining to the abortion
- Other Self-Punishing or Self-Degrading Behaviors: abusive relationships, promiscuity, failing to take care of yourself medically or deliberately hurting yourself emotionally and/or physically
- Brief Reactive Psychosis: an episode of drastically distorted reality within two weeks of the abortion
- Possible Symptoms of Post-Abortion Syndrome in Men:
- Intense anger
- Low self-esteem
- Mistrust of women (if she got pregnant in order to "trap" him, or if she had the abortion without his consent)
- Difficulty in establishing and maintaining close relationships with others
- May be overcome with guilt, shame, remorse
- May abuse drugs, alcohol, food to numb the pain
- May feel estranged from God; unforgivable
Guardian Angel believe in giving individuals a "clear view" of the facts of abortion and what the "choice" truly means, not just during the moment of panic, distress and despair... but how it may affect you (woman, man, family member) 20 years into the future. ABORTION IS A LIFE DECISION! It effects the unborn babys' life and it will effect you, the parent, for the rest of YOUR life. As well as effect your family, friends and future relationships for the rest of their lives.
Ways & Tips to Help those people:
§ Talking to others about feelings and the experience itself. Without judgement or pressure, talk to: [Remember that whatever is UNconfessed is beyond the reach of healing!]
· spiritual or religious leaders
· family members and friends
· abortion recovery specialists
· counselors (professional, lay)
· co-workers and assocites
§ Planning daily routine
§ At least one hot meal a day
§ Reduce caffeine and sugar intake
§ Limit alcohol consumption
§ Drink plenty of fluids
§ Nap for short periods during the day
§ At least 7-8 hours of sleep a night
If You've Had an Abortion
Those of us who have been hurt by abortion know the deep pain that goes along with it. We know about the overwhelming grief, the regret, the shame and the remorse. Often, we feel what we have done is too horrible to be forgiven, and we certainly don't think we can ever forgive ourselves. If this is where you are, these articles are for you.
Whether you believe it or not, you can find forgiveness, and you can experience healing in your life. Read through the following articles.
"Like a soothing ointment, God takes His grace and mercy and cleanses our deepest wounds. With slow, methodical hands He massages away the hurt. But one reminder can rip open the gash and it bleeds sorrow anew. So we must again turn to our loving Father. Only He will heal the guilty past. Through forgiveness, He points us toward the future."
This then is how we know that we belong to the truth,
and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence
whenever our hearts condemn us.
For God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything.
1 John 3:19-20
God loves you. He wants a relationship with you and He wanted it so bad that He came to earth in human form (Jesus) to live among us, to tell us about Himself, and to ultimately lay down His life for us. All He asks in return is that we acknowledge that we need Him and to accept His gift of grace in exchange for our sin. Yes, I used another turn-off word: sin. Sin, sin, sin. It's an unpopular word and an unpopular concept, almost as unpopular as mentioning Jesus. But the truth of the matter is this: We are sinners in need of a Savior. God is our Creator and Father, and as such, loves us more than we can comprehend. There's only one problem. God cannot allow sin into His presence. So because He loved us so much, He made a way for us to be cleansed of our sin: He became the Sacrificial Lamb. Blameless, sinless, He offered Himself up on the cross, paying the penalty so we wouldn't have to.
If you have never acknowledged your need for Christ, I urge you to do so now. No amount of counseling or therapy or drugs will relieve the load of your guilt and sin until you accept the gift of grace God gave you when He allowed Himself to be nailed to a cross. He loves you and wants a relationship with you. He wants to be your friend, your comforter, your refuge, your hope, your peace, your joy. All you have to do is believe in faith that what He said in His Word (the Bible) is true: For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16) Then and only then will you find forgiveness, peace, healing from your abortion.
Once you've accepted Christ as your Savior, there are some things you need to know about true forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not a feeling.
It is a choice that must be made as a conscious act of the will and has nothing to do with your feelings. The choice doesn't change your feelings any more than your feelings nullify the choice. Making the choice is not the destination. It is only the beginning of the journey toward healing.
Forgiveness does not undo the damage or minimize the pain.
It does not sweep the conduct or the consequences under the rug where they will trip you up later. Forgiveness involves facing your feelings and dealing with them directly and honestly. Acknowledge the anger, the hurt, the guilt, the shame. But because your feelings will change daily, you must choose to anchor yourself in God's Word that never changes.
Forgiveness is a product of God's mercy.
If you feel that you don't deserve to be forgiven, you're right. Forgiveness is a free gift from God based on the shed blood of Jesus Christ at Calvary. Just as you did nothing to earn the forgiveness that leads to salvation, you can do nothing to earn forgiveness for your sin now. You must choose to accept God's forgiveness and you must choose to forgive yourself. God commands that you do so (Ephesians 4:31-32).
Forgiveness is a command.
God never commands us to do something without providing a way for us to obey Him. It is impossible to obey the command to forgive without relying on God's forgiveness to enable you. Jesus said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible" (Matthew 19:26). In time He will enable you, through the power of His Holy Spirit, to completely forgive yourself and anyone else who may have played a part in your abortion (Philippians 2:13). However, you must first decide to forgive. If you will allow Him, God will work in you to free you from the bondage of the guilt, the grief and the shame.
His compassion, His mercy and His ability to wipe away our sins through His all-encompassing forgiveness.
I sought the LORD, and he answered me;
he delivered me from all my fears.
 Those who look to him are radiant;
their faces are never covered with shame.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
The LORD is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
 He will not always accuse,
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
 he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.
 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
 as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
This is what the LORD says:
"A voice is heard in Ramah,
mourning and great weeping,
Rachel weeping for her children
and refusing to be comforted,
because her children are no more."
 This is what the LORD says:
"Restrain your voice from weeping
and your eyes from tears,
for your work will be rewarded,"
declares the LORD.
"They will return from the land of the enemy.
 So there is hope for your future,"
declares the LORD.
"Your children will return to their own land.
 "I have surely heard Ephraim's moaning:
'You disciplined me like an unruly calf,
and I have been disciplined.
Restore me, and I will return,
because you are the LORD my God.
 After I strayed,
after I came to understand,
I beat my breast.
I was ashamed and humiliated
because I bore the disgrace of my youth.'
"For I (the Lord) will forgive their wickedness
and will remember their sins no more."
And so I tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven men, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven.  Anyone who speaks a word against the Son of Man will be forgiven, but anyone who speaks against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven, either in this age or in the age to come.
I tell you the truth, all the sins and blasphemies of men will be forgiven them.  But whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven; he is guilty of an eternal sin."
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are--yet was without sin.  Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 3:19-20
This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence  whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.
On Forgiving Yourself
Many of those who have participated in abortion eventually feel the need to be forgiven. However we repeatedly hear from those who find it easy enough to accept God's forgiveness, yet are still unable to forgive themselves.
If you have not yet accepted God's forgiveness, that is your first step. However, if you have accepted God's forgiveness and still feel the need to forgive yourself, please read on.
First John 3: 19-20 (from the Bible) says: "This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in His presence whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything."
God knows everything about you. And if your heart is condemning you for the part you played in abortion (even after accepting His forgiveness) it is important for you to know that God is greater than your heart. His grace, as proven in the price He paid for your sins through the shed blood of Jesus on the cross, was then and is now sufficient for all your heartaches, all your sin, all your guilt and shame. God has provided all-encompassing forgiveness for you. And because He has provided it, He does not want you to continue to be weighted down with these destructive feelings. He loves you and wants you to know that He has removed your sin from you as far as the east is from the west. He has even chosen to forget your sin.
"My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness." - 2 Corinthians 12:9
God's Forgiveness for You
His forgiveness is complete
"If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:8, 9
He does not treat us according to our sins:
"The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will He harbor His anger forever; He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His love for those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him." Psalm 103:8-14
Once our sins are forgiven, they are gone forevermore:
"For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more." Jeremiah 31:34b
God commands that you forgive others.
Forgive in the same measure you have been forgiven:
"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Ephesians 4:32
Love your enemies:
"Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you..." Matthew 5:44
Do not seek revenge--instead, live in peace
"Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Romans 12:17, 18